Mind Games

Sometimes life gets in the way of things we know we need. Exercise falls behind, or healthy eating, and sometimes it's our relationship. One recurring phenomenon that we all must deal with at some point is when we stop having regular sex in our long term relationships. We often tell ourselves it's a timing issue, but the truth is, there's usually something else going on. What if you’re having trouble wanting sex? Sometimes our hormones leave us looking for our lost horny.

Feeling horny starts in the mind. Sometimes our minds need a reminder to be frisky because our genitals won’t get there if our minds aren’t there first.
We need a quick fix for those who want to start having sex more regularly, but don’t feel like horny teenagers.

What’s the quick fix?

Become a horny teenager.

With your partner, decide in the morning before work that you’re going to have sex that night. Go about your regular day, but think about the sex you’re going to have, often. Think about it at your desk, during lunch, in the bathroom, on the drive home…let is cross your mind all day. When you’re thinking about it, think about your ideal fantasy. Sex isn’t graceful or seamless, but imagination sex is. In the middle of the day, text your partner and describe your imagination sex in as much detail as possible to give them an idea of where to start later. If you get home first, complete any responsibilities you have while still thinking about your sex fantasy. If you are waiting for your partner for a while, casually masturbate (or not casually…it’s up to you).

The important part of these steps is that, at every point along the way, you are deciding to have sex that night. If at any point in the day you think that you don’t want sex, it almost certainly won’t happen. And there’s nothing wrong with rescheduling this date…as long as you can talk about why and when.

Most teenagers are horny all the time because they think about sex all the time…think about it.